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How to deal with difficult teenagers?

How to deal with difficult teenagers?

Parenting is not easy, you are not alone. Especially when it comes to so-called troubled kids who suffer from aggression, violence or depression, reckless behavior or constant mood swings. You may be exhausted from failed attempts to communicate, quarrels and sharp words. Or you may live in a constant fear that your teen can fall into a bad company which often leads to drug and alcohol ingestion.

While parenting difficult teen may seem completely impossible task, it is still a beatable challenge. There are steps parents can take to reduce the stress and ease the chaos at home. What`s more, it will help transit your children into a happy, successful individual without inferiority complex and biased opinion about their appearance.

Teenage girls` problems

Being a teen is the best time in one`s life. But like each coin with two sides, this time comes with different challenges. Teenage girls are more susceptible to the problems as even small matters seem really big for them. As a parent your duty is to help your teenage girl to overcome all the behavior problems she may face.

The most common teenage girl`s problems are: appearance, dating, friendship, education, self-confidence, bullying, depression. Having an understanding of all these issues will help you understand your daughter much better and give her a helping hand when she needs it. Here is the list of the most frequent teenage girl`s problems.

  1. Appearance

This issue is probably the most important for a teen girl. Her body is constantly changing; sometimes skin problems appear. Besides, she constantly sees and hears about perfect model bodies. If she doesn`t look like models, it can lead to the inferiority complex.

Solution:

  • Talk to your girl about her body changes;
  • Make sure that your daughter doesn`t adopt unhealthy eating habits.
  • Make sure your daughter doesn’t have negative influence from her friends.
  1. Dating

 Don`t be surprised if your teenage girl will suddenly show an interest in her classmate or friend. Teenage is a confusing time for her. And the sudden flow of hormones can make it worse.

Solution: 

  • Talk to your daughter about her relations and sexual education;
  • Pass relevant information about relations between men and women;
  • Watch movies, read books, give examples of healthy relationship.
  1. Bullying/cyberbullying

A short info on bullying and cyberbullying:

  • Bullying means hurting and insulting somebody physically, for example punching or spreading rumors;
  • Cyberbullying is the same old bullying taking place online. For example, creating fake accounts to insult the other person or posting hateful comments on their account.

Bullying and cyberbullying statistics is alarming:

  1. 81 % of teens think that it is easier to bully others online. Besides, many bullies suppose to avoid the responsibility due to the possibility to remain anonymous.
  2. 35% of kids were threatened online. 1 in 5 teens has experienced cyberbullying repetition more than once. Unfortunately, these numbers are increasing at the breakneck speed.
  3. 66 % of teens witnessed cyberbullying online
  4. 30% of cyberbullied teens think about suicide.

Bullying and cyberbullying are two main issues which affect the personality and behavior of teenage girls. As the result your teenage girl may feel depressed and keep everything to herself.

Solution:

  • Make sure your child is open and can discuss everything with you;
  • Talk about bullying /cyberbullying;
  • Teach how to act if your child faced bullying/cyberbullying;
  • Monitor your daughter`s phone texts with Kidgy app;

The best way to know what your teenage girl is going through is to keep an open and friendly communication.

How to deal with a child with anger issues?

If your child is aggressive or violent you may live in constant fear to get a call that your child is injured or has injured the other person. Both teenage girls and boys get angry, but their reaction is completely different. In most cases, girls usually express their anger verbally. As for boys, they express their anger physically, throwing objects, punching doors, walls and so on. For every parent such behavior can be very upsetting and devastating.

In most cases, aggressive behavior hides real emotions like fear, embarrassment, frustration, vulnerability or shame. When teens can`t cope with these feelings they may wear a mask of anger. For every parent it is a big challenge to help their kid cope with their anger. These rules will help you:

  1. Establish boundaries

Choose the right moment and talk about your kid`s feelings. Explain that there is nothing bad in feeling anger from time to time, but there are some problems with unacceptable ways of expressing it.

  1. Try to see the real face of anger

If your child looks sad or depressed, try to look deeper and understand the reasons for this behavior. Probably your child faced criticism or cyberbullying and needs someone to listen to and give a reasonable piece of advice. In this case parental control app may help. Use Kidgy, your low-cost cyber nanny to be aware of your kid`s online world.

  1. Beware of warning signs of anger

Help your teen identify the warning signs of seeing red and demolish the anger before it gets out the control. Notice the signs, does your teen suffer from a headache before the temper starts to boil?

Teen violence is a growing problem. Cruel movies, inappropriate violent content of videogames, destructing videos that stir up for drastic actions are leading to aggressive and furious behavior. For sure, not every teen exposed to violent content becomes cruel, aggressive and nervous. But for a troubled teen with nervous breakdowns and emotional instability the consequences may be devastating.

Exercises and activities to help with teenage issues?

It may sound odd, but having bursts of anger, your child shows that they need your love, support and most of all approval. Positive communication with your child is the best way to reduce stress. You may be surprised but you have more influence on your child than you think. Study the tips that will help you open the lines of communication with your child. 

  1. Control your own stress level

 If you had a bad day, your boss spoiled your mood and didn`t give you promotion, it is not a time to have a conversation with your child. To start a conversation with your child you need to be patient and positive.

  1. Give all attention to your child

Having a talk with your child, don`t forget to switch the TV off, and put your phone aside. Your child deserves your attention. Nothing should distract you from the conversation.

  1. Find common topics

Don`t start your conversation with criticism and moral arguments. It may lead only to the burst of anger or misunderstandings. It is important to find common grounds to discuss. It may help your child be more comfortable and open discussing other things (school, relations, communication with peers).

  1. Don`t judge your child

When your child is talking, it is important to listen to them without judging, criticizing, teasing and interrupting. Keep an eye contact to show that you understand and listen to your child very carefully. Texting or watching TV during the conversation may give your kids a feeling that you don`t value them.

  1. Be ready for rejection

Firstly, the attempts to talk to your child may be faced with such negative reactions as anger or irritation. But you don’t need to give up. Successful communication with your child requires time and struggles.

  1. Spend more time together

Try to spend as much time with your child as you can. The best way is to start mutual habits. For example, you can cook pizza on Friday, spend all night watching movies or go camping with your family.

Remember that parenting a teenager is difficult. Following these tips and mixing them with your love and understanding can help your child deal with anger and make their juvenility much easier.

 

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